God's Plan - Not Ours!

It still amazes me that my journey with infertility, adoption and fostering started when I was only 12 years old; a journey that would impact 4 generations of people that I love.  What I didn't understand then, was that God always has a plan for our lives; often that plan doesn't look anything like what we had wanted or hoped for. But HIS plan is what is best for us and HIS love for us is expressed by all the blessings that come along that path.

As a pre-teen,I knew about God, but didn't have a personal relationship with Him.  What I did know, is that I was an only child, always wishing for a sibling.  What I did know is that my parents had tried to adopt, during a time when adoption wasn't always possible, as they, too, wished for another child.

When my parents became foster parents (when I was 12), I wasn't sure how I felt.  Our first placement, Tim, was a 6 week old baby and it looked as if adoption was in his future.  I was smitten by the end of the first day!  I loved my new roll as a "big sister" and did everything with that little baby as we watched him grow.  Unfortunately, the legal processes, as they also are today, didn't allow him to be placed timely.  So, for the next 14 months, we watched this cute little baby grow, develop a personality, call us endearing names; and we waited for the inevitable time when he would leave us.

My heart had a sisterly connection with my foster brother.  So the day when his new wonderful adoptive family picked him up for the last time, my heart was broken and it was the first time that I truly understood what loss was about.  For Tim, he was gaining a new family - his forever family - and they were wonderful.  For us, having been so connected to him, we were losing a part of our world.  I remember watching the car driving away and I thought my heard would never mend.

So when infertility and adoption became my reality with my husband many years later and when I finally understood God's role in my life, it wasn't surprising that these things became my passion. It also hasn't been surprising to me that our daughter has carried such deep passion to be immersed in this world; she and her husband now have 4 beautiful foster children and I love my newly found title of "Oma" to them.

By the way - God never closed the chapel of my childhood foster story.  We have been blessed to have been a part of Tim's live for 40 years!  In fact, my husband and I were blessed to have been at his wedding in the recent past; the first time that I had seen him since he was a child.  What a blessing his adoptive family has been to us.  What a blessing God has given me in every part of the journey He has taken us on.

Have you considered fostering or adoption?  Have you thought it would be too hard?  Yes, there may be hard times, but I can attest to the fact that God has a plan and if you jump on the journey, you will be forever changed!  



For the Kids!

As I reflect over our first full year of being at our Waukesha office, I am reminded of the many, many new faces that we have been blessed to have met - some for the first time and others several times over.  The stories have been heart warming; the stories have been unimaginable.  But it's the sweet spirit of the children that reminds me why Chosen does what we do.  It's for the children who need to feel safe and loved.  That's why our first year has been so successful....it's not because we have given away a lot of things - because we have.  It's not because we have gone out into the community talking about the great need for foster and adoptive families - because we have.  It's because we want to support the wonderful families who give these children in need a home where they can thrive.  They do it out of love; they, like we, do it all for the children!

Exciting Family Closet Feedback!

The Family Closet received some complimentary feedback from a social worker this week that we wanted to pass along to our followers and supporters!

September 20, 2017

Good afternoon Karen, 

I just wanted to reach out and thank you/give you kudos. The two caregivers I referred to you last week had nothing but positive things to say about their experience with your program. They were extremely appreciative of the quality and quantity of the items you offered, but spoke even more positively of the treatment they received from the people they interacted with. They both informed me that they felt very welcome and comfortable and were impressed with the coziness and child-friendly set-up. One also mentioned your daughter, Amalie, by name and felt that she was extremely kind and helpful.  

This is the first time I have referred to your program, and let me just say that it is a beautiful thing to hear such positive regard from my clients. Keep on doing amazing work!!

Matthew Bornheimer

Caregiver Support Specialist

Saint A

The Family Closet is Open!

Our Grand Opening and Ribbon Cutting Ceremony was on May 9th!  The Family Closet is now open to foster, foster to adopt, adoptive, kinship and guardianship families.

What an exciting night for us!  We had about 70 people from our community helping us to kick-off The Family Closet, which will provide resources to foster and adoptive families and also allow us to help those in kinship and guardianship situations.  

The Waukesha County Business Alliance hosted the event, which included speakers Paul Farrow (County Executive of Waukesha) and Judge William Domina (Waukesha County).  

A special thanks to our sponsors:  Meli Restaurant and Bar, Children's Community Health Plan and Melissa Belter Photography!

Thanks to all of our volunteers and guests who helped make this night a success!!